Imagine the perfect Mother’s Day — that one special day each year where our maternal efforts are celebrated and thanked. This day of praise and gratitude is offered to moms around the world for the love we pour out, the many sacrifices we make, and the dedication we give our families on a daily basis.
But sometimes, even Mother’s Day can feel like a farce.
Fake. Phony, even.
Perhaps an explanation is in order…
Each year, as my children offer up their sweetly mis-spelled sentiments in cards and gifts, I’m painfully aware that this celebration of “Mom” doesn’t always match up with the woman I see in the mirror.
Where they celebrate fun memories, I see my moments of frustration.
Where they applaud the work and love I’ve poured into them, I see my battle with anger.
Where they reward the specialness that is their Mom, I see my “bad mama” moments.
This hard look in the mirror leaves me stricken with fear that the true legacy I’m leaving my kids will be one of regret and disappointment. In my reflection, I am confronted by my weariness, my sin nature, and my worry over who and what they will become as a result of my shortcomings. These feelings of inadequacy overwhelm and undermine my best intentions.
It’s true — Mother’s Day can leave me feeling like a fraud because I see my heart the other 364 days of the year, too…and it’s as if this gratitude from my children is completely undeserved!
But I know I’m not alone in this — you’ve struggled with feelings like mine too, haven’t you? Have feelings of guilt, exhaustion, and anger started to overtake your heart and thoughts? Do you echo this fear that perhaps you don’t deserve to be celebrated, honored, appreciated?
Maybe we’re looking at it all wrong — perhaps it’s time to start seeing ourselves in a different light. An accurate and positive light that shines on us in a way that is more in line with how our children see us. This light looks past the struggles and focuses on the gifts we’ve been given. This light gives us the courage to rest and live well into the strengths we’ve been blessed with.
Friends, I’m tired of staring into that mirror only to see a woman beaten down (and slightly miserable) from her less-than-perfect attempts at mothering. I want to see a reflection of joy — a woman who is satisfied with her efforts, leaning into a strength that is not her own, basking in her blessings, and enjoying her role as the mama she was created to be.
Because each one of us is to be celebrated. Those tears you’ve cried, each tired moment in the toy-filled trenches, and every battle you’ve waged for the hearts of your children is not to go unnoticed. So, for the next five days, I’d like to challenge each of us to look past the negative and focus on the beauty and strength within.
This challenge I’m proposing is for every mama who has fought against frustration, wrestled through hard seasons, felt the weight of inadequacy, or fallen victim to intense exhaustion.
This is an opportunity to join together, face our struggles, and find our strengths. It’s time we stand boldly before that mirror and start loving the lady looking back. Loving her in spite of the shortcomings, loving her because He loved her first, and loving her because we know each and every effort poured into her parenting. Want a sneak peek of the topics we’ll be covering in this challenge? Take a look below:
Are you ready, mama? Me, too.
Join me by signing up for the Mom In The Mirror Challenge — Five Days of Learning to Love Motherhood all over again! Simply leave your name and email address below and in the next few minutes you’ll receive a confirmation email! Once you confirm your subscription, you’ll receive exclusive content from me each day for the next five days! Each day will focus on a specific struggle in our motherhood journey with Thoughts from the Trenches, Strength from Scripture, and Action Steps to help us walk through it together as we find our strengths in the midst of those struggles! You’ll also be signed up for The Breakfast Club — an exclusive weekly newsletter where we gather together as a community of Jesus-loving women who come together to talk about motherhood and being a wife, following our Savior, and sharing His love in our community…in very real and intentional ways.
As an added bonus, I’d like to share the Perfectly Imperfect Blog Series with you! In these guest posts, moms just like you share their shortcomings and insecurities with a renewed perspective that showcases the strength and grace found in journeying through motherhood with God’s help and direction! Just click on the series button over there to read the posts!
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